There's a guy in my life that I love. We're friends. He knows I love him and I think that does more bad than good to our friendship. I'm not out to destroy him or any potential girls in his life. Yet I know he and others see me as a threat or at least something unfavorable in this particular aspect. This has caused some problems and I am afraid it will cause more. What do I do?
-Friend in love
First and foremost, I would like to say that letting him know was a good choice. It may not seem like it right now but it is always good to let people know such a great thing, mutual or not. I know it must be hard dealing with such a powerful feeling towards someone especially when it's not mutual but there are steps you can take to ensure that you keep your good friendship without compromising any "potentials" for both of you. Love is a powerful thing and nothing to be ashamed of. However, in cases like these, a lot of factors come into play and things need to be considered.
I recommend that you make an effort to avoid giving him any special attention. He is special to you, that's obvious. However, he is your friend. At this point, nothing more and nothing less. Keep your emotions in check. There may be times where your feelings for him consume you or overwhelm you. That would be a good time to take some time for yourself or some time away from him. If this is a friendship you cherish, you have to realize that this may make him uncomfortable, especially around other girls. And yes, this may make other girls uncomfortable. It may be a love with no bad intentions but the facts still remain.
Keep in mind he's not the only great guy out there. There are others out there, too. Try to avoid closing yourself off to others.
Love is amazing and powerful. There's nothing wrong with you being in love with your friend. Just make sure you realize that you are just friends (right now) and try to gain a better understanding of what that means.
Best wishes to you and your friend.
- LeAnn
